My name is Kelly Esseldeurs.
For almost 15 years I have been guiding individuals, couples and married couples towards a better relationship, living and loving together in harmony.
Groepspraktijk De Alverberg is a specialist house for relationship therapy and relational happiness. Relationship therapist Kelly Esseldeurs offers integrative therapy for couples who want to improve their relationship on several fronts and strive for a deeper connection.
Couples gain insight into their personal differences, sensitivities and unique interaction patterns and learn to become stronger in their communication, connection and intimacy. As a result, relationship problems are more efficiently addressed at the core. This will allow couples to independently overcome their challenges in the future.
To provide an integrated approach, we work with a carefully developed network of therapists and other healthcare professionals.
The therapies used are Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (EFT), IBCT-relationship therapy (Integrated Behavioural Couple Therapy), Gottman-Couple Therapy, and Trauma informed relationship therapy.
Today’s relationships face unique pressures. From sex or porn addiction and substance use, to the influence of social media or finding the right balance between space and connection—especially when working from home. At The Alverberg, we support couples in navigating these modern-day challenges and help them reconnect with each other.
For couples who find it difficult to feel truly emotionally connected due to previous experiences (a difficult childhood, infidelity in a previous relationship, …) and who consequently keep finding themselves in the same negative patterns.
For couples dealing with the impact of (individual) trauma on their relationship. Together, we work on breaking negative patterns and creating more resilient, safe coping mechanisms in which both partners feel understood, supported and connected.
For couples who keep ending up in the same arguments, or feel like they are talking past each other. For those who notice that differences in personality, needs, or sensitivities clash and create distance. I help you to recognize those underlying patterns, to understand where they come from, and to deal with them together in a different way. So that you can have difficult conversations without escalating — with more calmness, mutual understanding, and connection.
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Onze relatie stond op het punt van instorten na de ontdekking van ontrouw. We voelden ons verloren, gekwetst en wisten niet hoe we verder moesten.
Kelly heeft ons geholpen om het vertrouwen weer op te bouwen, stap voor stap. Haar geduld, steun en de veilige ruimte die zij creëerde, gaven ons de kracht om samen verder te gaan. Ze leidde ons door de pijn, maar ook door de hoop en het herstel.
Dankzij haar begeleiding durf ik nu de toekomst terug tegemoet zien, wetende dat we sterker staan, ook al is het soms nog moeilijk om te begrijpen hoe dit ons is overkomen. En ja, ik zeg ons, want ik weet nu wel beter dat ik zelf ook een deel was van het probleem.
– Katja en Geert