My name is Kelly Esseldeurs.
For almost 15 years I have been guiding individuals, couples and married couples towards a better relationship, living and loving together in harmony.
Groepspraktijk De Alverberg is a specialist house for relationship therapy and relational happiness. Relationship therapist Kelly Esseldeurs offers integrative therapy for couples who want to improve their relationship on several fronts and strive for a deeper connection.
Couples gain insight into their personal differences, sensitivities and unique interaction patterns and learn to become stronger in their communication, connection and intimacy. As a result, relationship problems are more efficiently addressed at the core. This will allow couples to independently overcome their challenges in the future.
To provide an integrated approach, we work with a carefully developed network of therapists and other healthcare professionals.
The therapies used are Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (EFT), IBCT-relationship therapy (Integrated Behavioural Couple Therapy), Gottman-Couple Therapy, and Trauma informed relationship therapy.
Today’s relationships face unique pressures. From sex or porn addiction and substance use, to the influence of social media or finding the right balance between space and connection—especially when working from home. At The Alverberg, we support couples in navigating these modern-day challenges and help them reconnect with each other.
For couples who find it difficult to feel truly emotionally connected due to previous experiences (a difficult childhood, infidelity in a previous relationship, …) and who consequently keep finding themselves in the same negative patterns.
For couples dealing with the impact of (individual) trauma on their relationship. Together, we work on breaking negative patterns and creating more resilient, safe coping mechanisms in which both partners feel understood, supported and connected.
For couples who keep ending up in the same arguments, or feel like they are talking past each other. For those who notice that differences in personality, needs, or sensitivities clash and create distance. I help you to recognize those underlying patterns, to understand where they come from, and to deal with them together in a different way. So that you can have difficult conversations without escalating — with more calmness, mutual understanding, and connection.
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We hadden constant ruzies over de dagelijkse dingen en onze verschillen in verwachtingen. Kelly heeft ons geholpen elkaar beter te begrijpen en vooral respectvoller met elkaar om te gaan. We voelen ons nu al meer op één lijn en kunnen ruzies beter uitpraten.
We zijn dankbaar voor het geduld dat ze met ons heeft gehad, want er is veel crisis tussen ons geweest. Nu hebben we rust met de tools die we hebben geleerd. Bedankt.
– Sari en Joao
