My name is Kelly Esseldeurs.
For almost 15 years I have been guiding individuals, couples and married couples towards a better relationship, living and loving together in harmony.
Groepspraktijk De Alverberg is a specialist house for relationship therapy and relational happiness. Relationship therapist Kelly Esseldeurs offers integrative therapy for couples who want to improve their relationship on several fronts and strive for a deeper connection.
Couples gain insight into their personal differences, sensitivities and unique interaction patterns and learn to become stronger in their communication, connection and intimacy. As a result, relationship problems are more efficiently addressed at the core. This will allow couples to independently overcome their challenges in the future.
To provide an integrated approach, we work with a carefully developed network of therapists and other healthcare professionals.
The therapies used are Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (EFT), IBCT-relationship therapy (Integrated Behavioural Couple Therapy), Gottman-Couple Therapy, and Trauma informed relationship therapy.
Today’s relationships face unique pressures. From sex or porn addiction and substance use, to the influence of social media or finding the right balance between space and connection—especially when working from home. At The Alverberg, we support couples in navigating these modern-day challenges and help them reconnect with each other.
For couples who find it difficult to feel truly emotionally connected due to previous experiences (a difficult childhood, infidelity in a previous relationship, …) and who consequently keep finding themselves in the same negative patterns.
For couples dealing with the impact of (individual) trauma on their relationship. Together, we work on breaking negative patterns and creating more resilient, safe coping mechanisms in which both partners feel understood, supported and connected.
For couples who keep ending up in the same arguments, or feel like they are talking past each other. For those who notice that differences in personality, needs, or sensitivities clash and create distance. I help you to recognize those underlying patterns, to understand where they come from, and to deal with them together in a different way. So that you can have difficult conversations without escalating — with more calmness, mutual understanding, and connection.
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Kelly’s aanpak is heel aangenaam. Ze werkt deskundig, maar toont ook veel empathie en respect. Waar wij het meest aan hebben gehad zijn de praktische handvatten om onze relatie te verbeteren, maar ook het echt kunnen groeien als persoon en als koppel. Zo heb ik geleerd om meer naar mijn gevoel te durven luisteren, en dat dan ook uit te spreken.
Ik ben dankbaar dat we Kelly als therapeut hebben betrokken in ons leven. Dankzij haar inzicht en professionaliteit was er niets te veel in de chaos die we soms met ons mee brachten. Soms schaamde ik mij daarvoor, maar Kelly stelt je erg op je gemak om alles bespreekbaar te maken en jezelf te kunnen zijn.
– Dina